Ever since we got married (close to a year now), I have been telling my husband I wanted to start a blog to capture the moments in our crazy life. The five years before the wedding was quite the journey, but being married to an active duty marine I figured the rest of my life was going to be an adventure. I wish I had the time, motivation and dedication to start this sooner because I have missed out on jotting down sooo many mind boggling moments in the past 10 months of wedded bliss. I didnt want my blog to be a 'dear diary' entry, so the past month I've been trying to think of creative ideas to maintain a blog.
The conversation we had today confirmed the kind of topics I would like to discuss through my blogs.
Working for my current employer had been a dream since before college graduation. It was the company everyone was talking about, it was the product that was gaining so much of momentum in the business world. It was totally the coolest place to be. All my research of the company and my desire to work for them came true in 2006. The travels were exciting. Had some awesome conversations with people on the plane, got to see different places and people in the process. Learned a lot about the consulting world and lifestyle. Wanted to get a few years under my belt and gain my place in the business/consulting world. It was amazing and exciting...until the day I got married.
It hit me first (that I wasnt home long enough) when I realized I did not know what flavor of Quakers oatmeal my husband liked even after 6 months of being married. =) There was a time when my husband had to drop off our guinea pigs at his work while he went to Albany for a couple of days. And many more similar but eye opening stories...
So my passion has changed now. I do not worry too much about my career, although my husband thinks I should. All I can say now, is that I want to be close to home. I want to be able to come home from work every night. I want to be able to take care of my pets, and my home. I want to be able to have his meals ready when he comes home from work no matter how late it is. I dunno...I just want to be around. Not just that, I miss the people in my world. I miss Bible studies and Sunday school classes. To sum it all up, I miss home. =)
My husband says I should make the most of my dream at least until children come into the picture. It totally makes sense. We both are career oriented and our work has always been a huge factor in our lives. And we've always told each other we would not be a hinderance to the other's career choices.
I am married to a United States Marine. His job is his life. Duty and country must come before family. Hence, his job, by default, becomes my life (and our kids' lives).
My reasoning for wanting to be close to home:
1. I want to be the kind of wife who takes care of her husband on a daily basis and not only on weekends. (Granted my husband doesnt like being taken care of and is self sufficient)
2. I want to get used to the idea of preparing dinner/doing chores after coming home from work before we add kids to the picture. (This way I'm not learning everything all at once.)
3. There is a possibility after Recruiting Duty, my husband will be deployed when he gets back in the fleet. Now is the time to enjoy the moments together before the distance and stress kicks in. Ours has always been a long distant relationship. I think it's time for a break.
4. I want to be the ideal Marine Wife. The kind that has her own career/job but still plays an important part in the Marine Corp family. I can't volunteer or be a part of the community with my travels. I need a job close to home that will allow me to get out there and experience life as a true Marine wife. The career path my husband is on, requires a wife that is just as motivated and dedicated to the Corp....or at least I think so.
That, I believe, is my passion today. To run a home, to be a wife, to support the Marine Corp and my husband. I am willing to give up my dreams for that because this is what makes me happy now. Correction, no I will not give up my dreams for anybody!! I just changed my dream from being an outstanding IT professional to being an exceptional Marine wife. This is now my life.
So now, what IS a wife to do? Am I being silly here? Would you do the same for your husbands and family? What are some of the unspoken rules of being THE good wife?
Can't wait to hear your comments...
Mrs. Sgt. P. (one of his poolees called me that the other day and I was in 7th heaven)
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